Many parents find themselves in quite serious conflict over the amount of time that their children will spend with each of them. Sometimes one parent feels they aren’t getting enough day-to-day caring opportunities.
The important thing is to talk. You don’t have to go to court to decide what to do when you separate unless you really can’t agree with each other. It’s often cheaper and quicker to work it out yourselves.
If you’re struggling to decide, you should try mediation to see if you can reach an agreement with the help of a mediator.
This is something you’ll have to do anyway if you later decide to go to court.
What is important is to put the needs of the child above your own. Start the new routine as soon as possible and keep it consistent. Children benefit from routine.
What is “reasonable”?
Each case is different, the needs of the child are the primary concern. You need to be practical. If you find yourself getting into conflict around agreeing contact you may need to get outside help.
We are often asked what “joint residence” means. There is the assumption that the parents share custody 50/50, that the children will spend half their time with one parent and half with another. That is not the case. Joint residence means that when the child is staying at your home, you can take whatever actions you think are appropriate for the welfare of your child.
Whatever the situation, it is important that you get impartial advice from an experienced and qualified family lawyer.
Call JMP Solicitors on 01476 565 295 for a free confidential appointment with our family law team.